Rising Stars: Leadership Truth & One Example Applicable to Your Rising Stars

For this blog, I will follow up a bit from the last blog and offer an example of success very applicable in leading anyone including your Rising Stars.  You may remember other blogs that I have done in which I mentioned that Leadership is not as much about playing control freak games and while some principles can be present, real Leadership is about your people. 

Rising Stars: Leadership Truth & One Example Applicable to Your Rising Stars

This truth also includes Rising Stars, and I will be highlighting that for this and in doing that, you may remember how this was also highlighted on my Leadership & Faith Based Leadership blogs, 

For this one, I will give an example of my Great Grandkids and such.  For this blog, I will add a couple of key aspects and something to be aware of but will give a good example of my Great Granddaughter.  Before I do, let me offer an example I shared on a previous blog a long time ago and some may not remember it.  Before I follow up, let me offer a bit that I included about Neuroscience and real leadership.  Let me shortly reapply it for those that did not see it prior.

 Key Leadership & Neuroscience Truth and Application:

Historically, so often parents simply tell the Rising Stars what to do and how to do it and what to think.  If you only do that you are acting dysfunctional and are shutting off their brains and not letting them become and prepare for their future.

One of the things we have done with my great grandkids is that we get them thinking and it is having some amazing results for them.  We do not just simply tell them what to do or superficially dictate but we get them thinking and often they come up with what is truly successful.  If they are not sure, we can make a temporary rule until they learn and catch their true vision.

Realize that as parents and such, we do not want to simply dictate and shut off their mental processing and their Neuroscience Growth.  Realizing that as they grow, the development is based on their Neuroscience mental Processing and Decision Making.  It is not just about what a parent told them to do.  You don’t want to shut off their real mental processing.

You may recall that in my autobiography I pointed out the following:

“The leaders with whom I learned the most and developed in myself was awesome, but I did not gain it from anything anyone said…but rather through what I observed and experienced with them!”

This is a picture of what I am describing here.

The reader may remember something I posted quite some time ago and while their mom and dad were married, the mother was quite abusive.  As a result, the father was getting a divorce and yet loving the kids.  My Great Granddaughter was about 5 years old.  Because of the clear evidence for the abusive mother, the father was legally given exclusive custody rights to protect them. 

After the divorce, I got a call from the father, and he said he had sat with the daughter sitting on his lap for 2 hours and she was totally crying and asking, “Why Mommie Does Not Love Me”.  I asked him how he responded, and he confirmed that he said nothing but just held her.  I commended him and said that he did not speak evilly of anyone but also helped the daughter feel that she did not have to go through these tough times alone. 

Going forward we all connected with the kids so well and many times we would get with them and just be with them.   She is now about 15 years old and the lady she is becoming is amazing.   Not only is she doing so well at school as she just completed the 9th grade and next fall will be going to 10th Grade Sophomore. 

But I will also tell you that this last year she joined the school’s track team, and not only did she do amazingly but at the end of the year, the track coach called her up and joined her and gave her 2 awesome awards because of her track work and success.

It is awesome who she is becoming and no one had to tell her what to do with this.  She took the steps to achieve and in clarity of what she is seeking to achieve in college and her professional work, she has the vision of what that will be.

She has become awesome and not because anyone told her but having family members around and seeing and experiencing their connection and oneness and she has learned a lot.  Realize that:

“True Leadership is more CAUGHT than Taught!” - Coach Randy

So let me ask a couple of questions for the reader to consider:

1                How do you need to focus on CAUGHT rather than Taught?

2                What must you change to truly model and inspire their experience and their leadership development…and not relative to your view but their truthful successful dreams and vision?

Finally, realize how might you truly adapt your vision and application so that their mental processing and awareness of their dream and focus will be truly developed and prepared for future leadership and success in their journey when you are not there anymore?

Randy Swaim, Coaching for Relevance, LLC